“I Need You to Need Me” by Pamela Jessen

I have just read a post that I could have written myself – it reminds me of a conversation that was had very recently in our house.  When one half of a couple lives with a chronic condition – be it pain, disability, depression – the “normal” expectations of a relationship change, the boundaries move as partner and lover morphs into either carer or “patient”.

Pamela writes with honesty and gives some realistic suggestions for everyone in her post on There Is Always Hope blog.

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I’m tackling a tough topic again today – intimacy when you live with Chronic Pain. If you remember the Cheap Trick song, it’s been on my mind lately:

I want you to want me.
I need you to need me.
I’d love you to love me.
I’m beggin’ you to beg me.
I want you to want me.
I need you to need me.
I’d love you to love me.

How do you enjoy an active and healthy love life when you’re in pain all the time. How do you appease your partner, who may not understand what it’s like to be in pain 24/7. Even when you’ve explained it a million different ways, when it comes to talking about sex, and how painful it can be, it’s not an easy conversation, no matter how long you’ve been a couple.

To read the full post please visit There Is Always Hope Now

Monday Magic – Inspiring Blogs for You!

Welcome back to another Monday Magic!  What a morning it has been with a visit to the local hospital for an”ology” appointment.  Today it was gastroenterology and things didn’t bode well from the moment the nurse said they were running a little late.  There is a huge white board with the various doctors names and details of the clinic.  We sat and watched as nurses came out regularly and increased the waiting time for each different doctor – waiting time 45 mins, 1 hour, 1 hour 15 mins…until the registrar I saw was running about an hour and a half behind.

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Is it me, or is the waiting room always too hot when the clinic runs late? People start to become agitated, staff don’t have the right answers and tempers become frayed.  Staying calm is a must – so send hubby out for some coffees and breaaaaathe!  I was in and out in no time with an increased iron level, no major changes and am happy to report another young doctor seen who knew about Ehlers Danlos Syndrome, POTS and the related gut issues!  Now all I feel fit for is a long siesta…….

A much more exciting event that we went to this week was an Engineering and IT careers event – where the young engineer and his business partner gave a presentation – well the talented business partner spoke and the young engineer clicked the computer slides!  I am now a step nearer to understanding what their business is…..cybersecurity was mentioned more than once!  The robotics Professor from the local university had a little, but incredibly expensive robot with him which was fascinating.  His main interest of study is using the robot for teaching both SEND children, who respond well to the consistency in information given by a robot, but also in mainstream education.  It was quite unnerving when the robot was fired up and ready as his eyes were able to track you across the room and his face really did seem to be expressive.  Another exciting topic was a “plasma” tool that a group of scientific engineers have created for a plastic surgeon friend.  The tool is available for both hot and cold plasma surgery and can potentially be used to aid cell and skin regeneration, tattoo removal and may help reduce the growth of resistant bacteria strains such as MRSA.  My head was simply spinning when we left….and I’m not even one of the students it was aimed at!

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This weekend the celebrations reached fever pitch in Wales as the Six Nations rugby was won, but also in all corners of the earth where there is a touch of the shamrock needing little excuse to celebrate St Patrick’s Day.  With a nod to the emerald isle, I have found you several St Patrick’s posts, along with some travel, health and beauty pieces.  Sit back and enjoy with a cuppa!

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https://www.jenniferalambert.com/celebrating-st-patrick/

https://freshvintagebylisas.blogspot.com/2019/03/vintage-printables-for-st-patricks-day.html

https://fancypaperblog.com/2016/03/17/movie-gems-for-st-patricks-day-treats/

https://fightingwithfibro.com/2019/03/15/22-lesser-known-facts-about-fibro/

https://awandafulthing.com/2019/03/11/simple-things-4/

https://borninacar.com/moscow-russia-5-minute-guide/

https://cliveblogs.wordpress.com/2019/03/09/im-still-me/

http://anordinarymom.site/librarians-changing-the-world-one-book-at-a-time/

https://midsummerlifedream.com/life-with-endometriosis/

https://www.beautyobsesseduk.com/2019/03/my-blush-collection.html?m=1

Please share some love for these bloggers and their writing – like, comment and share!

Have a great week,

Claire x

Monday Magic Inspiring Blogs for You! (6)

Monday Magic – Inspiring Blogs for You!

Welcome pain pals and apologies for the lack of interaction this last week.  Just prior to last week’s Monday Magic I managed to remove my humerus from its glenoid cavity…..or rather my shoulder had dislocated, yes I know…..again! Honestly my right shoulder is out more than in these days, but this last week has been particularly bad causing a few sleepless nights, much knocking back of morphine and generally feeling pretty low.  It really is unusual for me to want to do nothing – to not even be able to use my computer…..

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Then I woke up Sunday morning with a beautiful eyeliner applied perfectly to one eyelid in a fetching shade of rose red.  You could not draw such a perfect line, although the lovely girl offered to try to match it on the opposite eye.  By the time my GP saw it this morning it had changed shade to a purple edged with yellow which now looks more like eyeshadow over the whole lid.  She says it is an infection in the lid, but I still think hubby had something to do with it after I poked him for snoring!! (Joke!)  However he has banned me from opening certain drawers as that is how the latest “joint parting of the ways” came about, and it is still falling out of socket every time I move.  Good excuse not to cook or clean though!

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The week hasn’t been all bad for yours truly, as I had tickets to see the sixties inspired West End show “Rip It Up” with my mum.  I was worried as I was still feeling pretty rough, but with plenty of cushions for the car journey and then in my wheelchair when we got there, I survived.  I feel very fortunate to be able to secure both a wheelchair space and a free seat for my carer – in this case mum had a much more comfortable stand alone arm chair – situated in this theatre in the back row of the dress circle.  The show stars former Strictly Come Dancing stars : Harry Judd of McFly, Jay McGuiness of The Wanted, Aston Merrygold of JLS and Olympic gymnast Louis Smith MBE.  These boys sing, dance, drum and flip their way through the show.  The rest of the cast are such talented singers and dancers – Jill Marie Cooper’s voice blew me away – and there are some surprise turns on screen from sixties icons!

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Enough…I’m making up for my lack of typing this past week.  I have a selection of very varied posts for you from a cheeky look at middle names to several health posts to concert and book reviews to an interesting smoothie with a twist for my spoonie pals.  So grab a drink, sit back and enjoy!

http://scaleitsimple.com/2019/03/11/the-7-stages-of-a-taking-a-vacation/

https://www.radiantnubeginnings.com/menopause-the-final-stage-in-a-womans-life-does-it-frighten-you-too/

http://catherineinthecity.com/2019/03/10/drink-your-greens/

https://hotmessmemoir.com/2019/03/10/happy-middle-name-pride-day/

https://thecuriousfrugal.com/my-attempt-at-the-complaint-free-challenge-month-1-update/

https://ohmrstucker.com/perfect-oatmeal-cookies-with-dried-apricots/

https://rachaelstray.com/george-ezra/

https://dgkayewriter.com/sunday-book-review-20-learned-patients-olga-nunez-miret/

http://www.bbhwithms.com/ms-cannabis-recipe-for-my-medicated-smoothie/

https://dinosaursdonkeysandms.com/rainy-raspberry-relapses/

Please spread some joy and comment, like and share these posts.

Have a great week,

Claire x

Monday Magic – Inspiring Blogs for You!

March is here and the weather has been so mild that it has felt like near summer some days, and definitely spring.  The spring flowers are in bud, the trees are starting to change colour….and hay fever has raised its sneezy head in our house!  Hubby and the lovely girl both have runny noses and itchy eyes, probably from tree pollen and moulds so out with the nasal sprays and antihistamines again.

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It has been a busy week – well at least for my limited world – with several consecutive nights out.  I saved my spoons by doing very little during the day and had a lovely night at the theatre to see Rock of Ages, followed by a mums’ night out and being taken to dinner by the young engineer and his better half!  The theatre trip was exciting as my favourite from Strictly Come Dancing, the wonderful Kevin Clifton, was appearing – not as a dancer, but as a singer.  Boy can he belt out a song!! The show is very slapstick and certainly made me laugh – and I must shout out for the New Wimbledon theatre making it a very easy and accessible visit for this wheelchair user.  There is a special entrance with a lift to take those with mobility difficulties directly to the stalls and this is where the wheelchair and carer spaces are.  We were able to order our interval ice-cream in advance to be delivered directly to us, and the accessible toilets were huge and well equipped.  How can I go from talking about the lovely Kevin from Grimsby to the loos?!

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Current Strictly champion Kevin Clifton in Rock of Ages

 

Our mums night out had been arranged and was the height of embarrassment to our 16 and 17 year old daughters who can’t understand why their mothers might possibly want to go out and socialise.  We ate, drank and chatted so well – not all about the girls! – that we were the last ones in the restaurant.  Speaking of restaurants, the young engineer took us to a well respected London steak establishment just off Regent Street at the weekend.  We drove and used the Westminster “Park Right” app to find a blue badge parking space – parking spaces of all types have a sensor to detect if they are occupied and this connects live to the app.  It worked! I’m not sure what I had expected, but finding an empty blue badge spot just off Piccadilly Circus seemed too good to be true!  The staff in the steak house were all helpful with the wheelchair and even said that they would put a ramp at the steps so that I could use the disabled toilet.  Everything was going so well until I got to the top of the ramp and then couldn’t open the heavy door into the toilet corridor…..oh well, they tried!

Of course since yesterday  I have found myself all out of spoons and the weather changed back to cooler conditions.  So a perfect day to find some interesting blog posts for you and I hope you’ll agree that there are some great reads here.  Enjoy!

 

https://migrainemantras.com/2019/03/03/voices-from-the-hill/

https://rachdowsonwilliams.blogspot.com/2019/02/exploring-town-i-love-so-much.html

https://www.beautifulmindlifecoach.com/2019/01/always-3rd-wheel.html

https://lisaorchard.wordpress.com/2019/02/24/are-we-the-indoor-generation/

https://carolcooks2.com/2019/03/04/pancake-day-5th-march-aka-shrove-tuesday-mardi-gras-or-fat-tuesday/

https://beetleypete.com/2019/03/04/the-right-thing/

https://ablondeinthecrowd.wordpress.com/2019/03/04/a-letter-to-me/

https://topladytalks.com/2019/03/04/to-retreat-or-not-retreat-a-review-of-our-accessible-meditation-weekend/

https://noreenlace.com/2019/03/01/special-needs-authors-and-readers-an-interview-with-patty-fletcher/

https://www.sizzlingtowardssixty.com.au/the-importance-of-downtime/

Please like, comment and share the posts you enjoy!

Have a great week,

Claire 

Review and Blog Tour : “It’s Getting Scot in Here” by Suzanne Enoch

Disclaimer: I was sent an ARC of this book by the publisher in exchange for a fair and honest review.

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Book Blurb (from the publisher)

The first in a wickedly seductive new Scottish historical romance series from New York Times bestselling author Suzanne Enoch!

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London socialite Amelia-Rose Baxter is nobody’s fool. Her parents may want her to catch a title, but she will never change who she is for the promise of marriage. Her husband will be a man who can appreciate her sharp mind as well as her body. A sophisticated man who loves life in London. A man who considers her his equal—and won’t try to tame her wild heart…

IN THE HIGHLANDS
Rough, rugged Highlander Niall MacTaggert and his brothers know the rules: the eldest must marry or lose the ancestral estate, period. But Niall’s eldest brother just isn’t interested in the lady his mother selected. Is it because Amelia-Rose is just too. . . Free-spirited? Yes. Brazen? Aye. Surely Niall can find a way to soften up the whip-smart lass and make her the perfect match for his brother for the sake of the family.

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Instead it’s Niall who tempts Amelia-Rose, despite her reservations about barbarian Highlanders. Niall finds the lass nigh irresistible as well, but he won’t make the mistake his father did in marrying an Englishwoman who doesn’t like the Highlands. Does he have what it takes to win her heart? There is only one way to find out…

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Do you enjoy a historical romantic romp?  Then this is the book for you!  This is the first novel by Suzanne Enoch that I have read, and I must admit that as I found the cover a little “corny” I did wonder how I was going to find the book!  I needn’t have worried though as once I started reading I was hooked and wanted to follow the story of the MacTaggart brothers in London.

This is an easy to read story with everything that you want in a historic romance novel.  From the handsome, yet rugged hero to the misunderstood, headstrong heroine and the beautifully described period surroundings and clothes, the author has packed this book to bursting.  The action is fast paced and the characters will take you on an emotional rollercoaster.

The MacTaggart clan is dysfunctional at best, yet loving, loyal and supportive and very likeable.  The descriptions of some of the antics of the brothers had me laughing out loud and I loved Rory the deer (stuffed!) that they placed on their mother’s landing to rile her, yet the whole family ended up “dressing” him in finery.  Niall is the perfect romantic hero – tall and handsome, yet rugged, tough yet fiercely loyal and loving with a soft heart.  The older brothers Coll and Aden have started to show their characters in this book – but I have a feeling that their own stories might be in the pipeline.  Their mother is someone to be disliked at the beginning, yet as the story unfolds Lady Aldriss shows herself to be a tiger mother merely fighting for her children – no  matter that they are estranged from her and return as great, hulking young men from the Highlands “gracing” her London residence!

I love the main female character Amelia-Rose – better known as Amy to her friends.  She is a young lady who is underestimated by nearly everyone around her, and she is expected to conform to the social expectations of a young lady of a certain standing.  In other words she must not have own opinions, should definitely not speak out of turn and always do as her parents or husband see fit – a young woman of her time.  But Amy is a young lady with a strong character who struggles to comply with these social niceties and has earned herself a reputation for having a sharp tongue as she will speak out.  Although I know that it happened,  I still found myself a bit baffled by the way in which the aristocracy traded their near adult children in order to make better family alliances through arranged marriage – and parents would pay huge sums, as dowries, for more eligible suitors with titles.  It would be easy to feel sorry for Amy – indeed I felt for her having such a scheming mother – except she shows remarkable spunk throughout the novel.

This will not be seen as a great literary classic, but it is well written and most importantly thoroughly enjoyable.  It is a romance and it does have a couple of sexual scenes (I know that some readers like to be forewarned), but it also is fast paced and action packed so should not be underestimated.  I loved the fact that it was easy to read and provided some escapism – something that will appeal to my many spoonie pals out there.

This might not have been a book that would have jumped off the shelves at me, but I must admit that it became a guilty pleasure and I really look forward to a series with the other MacTaggart brothers tales!  Meanwhile I’m off to find some of Ms Enoch’s other Highland flings!

4 Stars

Publication Date: February 26, 2019
ISBN-13: 978-1-250-29637-5
St. Martin’s Paperbacks

The book is currently available here:

Amazon :

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About the Author

A native and current resident of Southern California, Suzanne Enoch loves movies Suzanne Enochalmost as much as she loves books, with a special place in her heart for anything Star Wars. Given her love of food and comfy chairs, she may in fact be a Hobbit. She has written more than forty Regency novels and historical romances, which are regularly found on the New York Times bestseller list.
When she is not busily working on her next book, Suzanne likes to contemplate interesting phenomena, like how the three guppies in her aquarium became 161 guppies in five months. Suzanne is trying to learn to cook, and wishes she had an English accent.

She is the bestselling author of Scandalous Brides series, The Scandalous Highlanders series, and One Hot Scot.

Find Suzanne:

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Thanks to St Martin’s Press and the author for giving me the opportunity to be on this blog tour.

Supporting People on Rare Disease Day – My Story shared on Despite Pain blog

Today is Rare Diseases Day and I was delighted to be asked by Elizabeth on Despite Pain blog to share my story of having Cauda Equina Syndrome, alongside Tom Seaman who has Dystonia; Jenny Jones who has Familial Adenomatous Polyposis and Short Bowel Syndrome; and Zoe (aged 12) who has Chronic Recurrent Multifocal Osteomyelitis.

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Supporting People on Rare Disease Day – Despite Pain

It can take a lot of courage to discuss health issues with friends and family, but sometimes people put their own health in the public spotlight to help others.

Sharing Matters

When someone has a rare disease, there is often very little information and support, therefore, what these people do really matters so much to so many people. Sharing their stories matters too.

Following on from my post last week, Why We Need to Support Rare Disease Day, I’d like to support a few people who have rare diseases by sharing their stories.

To read the rest of Despite Pain’s post and to read MY story please click here

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The lowdown on Cauda Equina Syndrome
What does cauda equina mean? Well quite literally it is the horse’s tail and the bunch of nerves exiting the base of the spinal cord resemble a tail.
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Cauda equina syndrome occurs when something invades the spinal space and compresses the cauda equina bundle of nerves. Most commonly this is a lumbar disc herniation (as in my case where the disc completely ruptures).
The defining symptoms for CES are
  • Sciatica (neurogenic pain) in the lower back and radiating down one/both legs
  • Bladder dysfunction usually leading to retention but occasionally to frequency, change in flow or incontinence
  • Altered perineal sensation or lack of feeling in the “undercarriage”!
  • Loss of some sexual function/sensation

For more information read:

Science Direct

British Journal of General Practice

Monday Magic – Inspiring Blogs for You!

I can never believe how quickly Monday Magic comes around, but what I do know is that week after week I find just how many fantastic blogs and bloggers there are in the blogosphere!

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The stand out story for me this week was that of Tony Foulds, the Sheffield pensioner who has cared for the memorial to 10 US airman who, as a child, he saw crash in his local park.  The crew of the Mi Amigo attempted to land their damaged aircraft in the Sheffield park where Tony and his friends were playing, but when the airman waved to the children to move, the youngsters merely waved back.  It remains the biggest regret of Tony’s life that as an 8 year old he thought the pilot was waving to him, not at him to move, and thus flew the craft into woods where the plane crashed.  When a BBC journalist heard that Tony’s greatest wish was to have a flag pole and a fly past on the 75th anniversary of the crash, he set about making it happen.  Relatives of the Mi Amigo crew joined thousands of local people as Tony watched the US and British airforces fly overhead – one plane for each airman.  Every time I have watched, Tony Foulds has reduced me to tears with his passion and his firm belief in caring for the memorial of the strangers he calls family. (See the full story here: https://www.facebook.com/bbcbreakfast/videos/642676716166370/)

In our household hubby went to Cambridge with my brother who had treated him for his birthday to a Prog Rock weekend….not my cup of tea, but they had a good time listening to loud music (Steve Rothery of Marillion fame) and visiting RAF Duxford.

 

So that left me in the capable hands of my lovely girl – yes, a girls’ weekend! I would love to be able to report a time of shopping and clubbing – once upon a time definitely! – but it was more like artwork (hers not mine) and a film.  The weather has been beautiful for February, so we managed to get ourselves to my parents’ house under our own steam.  Now I know that friends who know us in person are laughing now and yes, it is the same road…..but yours truly had the very tricky job of steering the new motorised chariot out of the patio doors, down the ramp, along the side entrance and out into the street.  Then the local council have seen fit to install temporary traffic lights at the roundabout that separates our end of the road from theirs, so I had an unexpected negotiation and a girl getting very worried her mum was going the wrong way in the road!  Fear not – my driving skills are improving and I was able to report to hubby that we had made it in one piece and then I used the headlight he had fitted to guide us home in the dark.  Well, ok it is a bike light and the street lights were on, but it still means that I can be seen coming!!  But to be serious, I really enjoyed the feeling of independence which I hadn’t quite expected!

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I mentioned above that I have found some fab blog posts for you and some of these are from a lovely facebook group that I belong to – Sharing, Inspiring, Promoting Bloggers.  The first on the list is giving a shout out to Rare Disease Day, later this week on 28th Feb – please have a look at the bloggers who have shared their stories in part one of Despite Pain’s series.  Yours truly will be featured in the next episode talking about cauda equina syndrome – I will share this with you later this week.  Meanwhile sit back, grab a cuppa and enjoy!

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https://despitepain.com/2019/02/18/why-we-need-to-support-rare-disease-day/

https://wheelescapades.com/2019/02/21/12-frustrations-of-being-a-wheelchair-user/

https://ginlemonade.com/2019/02/13/house-hunting-as-a-wheelchair-user-other-stories/

https://yesterdayafter.com/2019/02/19/art-for-music-series-aurora-portrait-new-release/

https://jumpstartpositivity.com/simple-things/

https://youcanalwaysstartnow.wordpress.com/2019/02/18/dont-be-rigid-and-brittle/

https://collinscrohns.wordpress.com/2019/01/04/top-chronic-illness-books-and-blogs-of-2018/

http://angelanoelauthor.com/guest-post/published-elsewhere/out-of-my-comfort-zone-why-i-wrote-an-essay-that-scares-me-a-little/

https://anhistorianabouttown.com/six-the-musical-review/

https://myblurredworld.com/2019/02/24/online-world-accessibility/

Please like, comment and share!

Have a great week,

Claire x

 

 

New Beginnings from the Storm – A Chronic Voice Link Up

This is written using the prompts given by Sheryl for February link up at A Chronic Voice

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New Beginnings from the Storm

The storm within my body brews

Changing the outlook daily

Swirling, drifting, creeping

One step forward, three steps back

Adjusting to the physical.

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What of my mind though?

How does the mental deal with the physical?

The physical is tiring

But the mental is exhausting,

Crushing the buds of hoping underfoot.

Some hope slumbers beneath the pain storm

As the first weak spring rays break out

Warming both my body and mind

Helping those surviving buds

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Become something positive and hopeful

Harnessing my body and mind,

The physical and mental,

Into befriending both myself

And others living just like me.

Our virtual world of chronic storms

Brings the warmth and sunshine

Of support and care,

The awakening of new beginnings

New friendships, new hope.

 

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Blog Tour and 5 Star Book Review for “Time Will Tell” by Eva Jordan #LoveBooksGroupTours

Blog tour for the highly anticipated third novel in the trilogy by Eva Jordan – the follow up to “183 Times a Year” and “All The Colours In Between”.  Many thanks to Love Books Group tours, Eva Jordan and Urbane Publications for the opportunity to take part.

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The Blurb – from the publisher

Writer, Lizzie Lemalf, and her loving but somewhat dysfunctional family are still grieving over the loss of a much-loved family member. Lizzie is doing her best to keep her family together but why does the recent death of a well-known celebrity have them all in a spin? The police suspect foul play; Lizzie and other family members suspect one another.

Lizzie begins searching for answers only to find herself being dragged back to the past, to 1960’s London to be exact, and to the former life of her father, that up until now she has never been privy to. Every family has its secrets but how can the past hold the key to a present day celebrity death? They say the past comes back to haunt you. Surely the truth will out? Maybe, but only time will tell…  

When I saw the final part of this trilogy was going to do the rounds on a blog tour, I just had to be a part of it.  Those of you who have followed my book reviews will know that I absolutely loved Eva Jordan’s first two books in the series, reading them back to back (you can find my review here – All The Colours In Between).  You simply must read the first books before embarking on Time Will Tell as the novel continues directly from the second and there is a large back story to be aware of.  Normally I write my own book summary, but in this case I am so wary of giving away spoilers, that I have just given you the publishers’ “blurb” above to wet your appetite!!

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Ms Jordan continues to tell the Lemalf family saga through the eyes of the family members, with different segments penned by different individuals.  This book gives a voice to more people though, alongside Lizzie, Cassie, Connor and Maisy, as Lizzie takes a trip back in time to her early childhood and before in her quest to unravel family history.

I loved hearing from her father, Salocin (Nicolas spelt backwards!) as he found his way into employment in 1960s London, found love and the value of friendship and loyalty.  Lizzie’s mother, Ellie, her Aunt Marie and Uncle Teddy also provide a narrative that both intrigues and fascinates Lizzie and the reader.  Their stories take us back to Clerkenwell, the City and the EastEnd as they fall in love and marry, then struggle to set up home and make ends meet.  Expect drama as the 60s tale unfolds across the narrative of the current day story – from early marriage and post natal depression to glamour, new homes and the murky world of organised crime and old style gangsters.  Warning – there are some descriptions of violence.

The characters continue to grow, both in age and personality – I still love the strong, yet poignant Lizzie and the now more mature Cassie (although her tendency toward saying the wrong expression is still there!).  The family dynamics remain dysfunctional yet loving, at times broken yet always fiercely loyal, both in the past and the current day.  This instalment of the Lemalf family saga involves an investigation, death and bereavement, some surprises from past and more recent relationships, all presided over by the wonderful head of the family Salocin.  I know that this is supposed to be the end….but I am sure there are some more stories left for Cassie, Maisy, Connor and the younger family members.  Please, Eva Jordan!

I cried and I laughed – I couldn’t put the book down and sat up late into the night to finish it.  The emotions that the characters put me through felt like a fairground ride – a true rollercoaster showing the myriad of family dynamics in technicolour! The last line has to go to Salocin though…..always remember “it’s not a life, it’s an adventure”.

Once again 5 stars!

Available from

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About the Author

Eva Jordan Profile PicEva Jordan is a published writer of several short stories and Time Will Tell is her third novel. Eva lives in a small town in Cambridgeshire with partner Steve and three of our four children, who are a constant source of inspiration – they are all teenagers, need I say more! Eva’s career has been varied, including working in a Women’s Refuge and more recently at the city library. However, storytelling through the art of writing is her true passion.

 

Find Eva:

Twitter : @EvaJordan

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Chronic pain: Catastrophizing

This is a reminder from Nikki at The Brainless Blogger how we can “catastrophize” our own pain

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Individuals differ in how they perceive pain, and in how they react to any painful experience. Some can work through the pain and make it through the day, while others think about their pain constantly, worry about when it will end and how much worse it will get. This negative emotional response to pain is called pain catastrophizing, Pain 101: The Latest Thinking About Pain Catastrophizing and Why It Matters for Chronic Pain

I don’t think any of us would disagree that when we focus on the pain, it is worse. When we can distract from it and negative thoughts, it helps. But many of do not like to think we are ‘catastrophizing’. Because it sounds like we are making mountains out of molehills. But really it means we can’t stop thinking about how much it sucks climbing that mountain. Instead of climbing the mountain, because we must. The mountain…

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