Blog Tour & Book Review “Waiting for Aegina” The Gift Series #LoveBooksGroupTours

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Many thanks to Kelly and Love Books Group for including me in this book blog tour!

Waiting for Aegina takes us back to the family and friends saga picking up the story where its predecessor, Evanthia’s Gift, left off.

It is the beginning of the 21st century and friends Sophia, Demi, Donna, Amy & Mindy are entering the next stage of their lives – as wives, mothers and business women. Affectionately known as the Honey Hill Girls, after the street where they grew up together, their friendships and love have strengthened with time and different experiences.

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Sophia, now very happily married to childhood sweetheart and Demi’s brother Dean, is still grieving for her mother Ana and worried for her father Alex.  She is also battling with her teen twins from her first marriage, who miss their father since his death and resent her marriage to their “Uncle Dean”, running her successful dance studio and she is heavily pregnant!

Demi has grown from a feisty youngster into a self assured woman, with a Greek fiery temperament and a fiercely protective streak for all those that she loves.  Her children are growing and the business that she runs with her husband Michael and brother, Dean is going from strength to strength – a vineyard that holds weddings and functions in a recently restored Carriage house.  But Demi and Michael are spending more and more time concentrating on their separate areas of the business, and Demi feels estranged from her adored husband and jealous of anyone else spending time with him – particularly his demanding mother!

Donna, the former high school cheerleader/Prom queen married to the football team captain/Prom king, is a teacher with 2 sons.  She has reached her forties and is feeling disillusioned with her marriage as husband Richie lavishes more attention on his sport, car and beer bottle than on Donna and the family.  The attention he focuses on elder son RJ – a keen sportsman like his father – is in direct contrast to the lack of interest that is shown towards younger son Anthony, a sensitive boy who enjoys art, theatre and music.  Donna struggles with her husband’s attitude toward their youngest and his derogatory comments about Anthony’s interests and gentle character.

Amy is now a successful lawyer turned politician, married to Ezra and mother to son Adam.  She is hiding a secret from her past that only Sophia knows – a son born 20 years ago and given up for adoption to a Greek family – but his father is a secret that Amy has never shared.  When her son, Sam, contacts her, Amy is delighted to get to know him through letters and phone calls. But before she has found the right time to tell Ezra and Adam about him or to even meet him face to face, the story has broken in the press that Congresswoman Amy had an illegitimate child and that the father was a now senior Congressman.

Mindy is the only one of the Honey Hill Girls to have never married, having put her soul into the building of her now successful dress design label Bloom.  She has been in love. Nightclub owner Tyler loved Mindy and wanted a life with her, but her long working hours and devotion to her work killed the relationship.  Several years later a chance encounter with Tyler gives Mindy a glimpse of the life that she could have had – marriage and his children.  She takes off to Greece to “grieve” and meets the dashing Apollo, but can this become a long distance relationship or will their differences make it doomed from the start.  As Mindy’s career goes from strength to strength, she despairs that she will never experience in her personal life what friends Sophia and Demi have.

The women’s lives move in different directions but remain intimately connected as they love and support each other through births, love and loss.

My review of the first in the Gift trilogy Evanthia’s Gift can be read here and whilst this book can be read as a stand alone……please, please, please read it as a sequel!  I gave the first book 5 stars and absolutely adored the characters, the settings, and the story telling – so I started the sequel with excitement but also trepidation.  Would it match up to the first novel?  Would I enjoy it as much and feel the characters in the same way?  Would I be inspired?

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Yes, yes, yes!  This book is written around the five friends, whilst the first concentrated on the stories of the first generation Greek families, and each chapter is titled with a different friend’s name – Sophia, Demi, Donna, Amy or Mindy.  Sophia and Demi featured heavily in the first book, so it is lovely to get to know more about the other friends in this novel and the author gives us some more of their back stories whilst delivering the individuality of the characters.  When I feel that I could be friends with a character, that I think about the people as I go about my day to day life and I might even dream about them – then I believe that the author has really succeeded in creating something special.

There were so many aspects of this book that appealed to me – but as a woman of a similar age with growing children, I identify with these women.  I know that the author’s inspiration came from a group of close school friends and a reunion (see her facebook page), and I have also recently returned for a 30 year reunion with both old school friends and my nurse training set.  The feelings reignited with people who you have grown up with or spent informative years of your life cannot be underestimated – it just happens that these women have remained in each other’s lives and those feelings have only strengthened over the years. Love, loyalty, strength and friendship

Ms Kammenou tackles both the joyful aspects of family and friendship, but she doesn’t shy away from difficult aspects of real life.  This novel tackles depression and counselling, domestic abuse, sexuality, devastation from a road traffic accident, politics, suicide, separation and bereavement.  As the mother of a young gay man, I was particularly moved by the story of young Anthony’s sexuality and the difficulties he and others experienced.  This is very different to my own family.

Once again I laughed with these ladies, but I also cried with them.  Their characters grow throughout the book and the author describes real life, not sugar coated, warts and all.  I loved this sequel and can’t wait to get my hands on the final book in the saga.  A great warm, emotional family saga to pack in your suitcase this summer!

I forgot to mention that once again Ms Kammenou demonstrates her wonderful Greek heritage with beautiful descriptions of Greece but more importantly of the food preparation.  Then interspersed with the chapters are recipes and directions to make the dishes, and they are so mouth watering that my family were treated to the Greek Stuffed Tomatoes and Peppers last night!  More wonderful recipes can be found her her website.

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Another 5 stars for this heart warming contemporary, family novel.

About the Author:

Effie Kammenou is a believer that it is never too late to chase your dreams, follow your heart or change your career. cover photo 2She is proof of that. At one time, long ago, she’d thought that, by her age, she would have had an Oscar in her hand after a successful career as an actor. Instead, she worked in the optical field for 40 years and is the proud mother of two accomplished young women.

Her debut novel, Evanthia’s Gift, is a women’s fiction multigenerational love story and family saga, influenced by her Greek heritage, and the many real life accounts that have been passed down. She continues to pick her father’s brain for stories of his family’s life in Lesvos, Greece, and their journey to America. Her interview with him was published in a nationally circulated magazine.

Evanthia’s Gift: Book One in The Gift Saga was a 2016 award finalist in the Readers Favorite Awards in the Women’s Fiction category.  Waiting for Aegina is Book Two in The Gift Saga and Chasing Petalouthes is Kammenou’s latest release, completing the series.

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Effie Kammenou is a first generation Greek-American who lives on Long Island with her husband and two daughters. When she’s not writing, or posting recipes on her food blog, cheffieskitchen.wordpress.com, you can find her entertaining family and friends or traveling for ‘research.’

As an avid cook and baker, a skill she learned from watching her Athenian mother, she incorporated traditional Greek family recipes throughout the books.

She holds a Bachelor’s Degree in Theater Arts from Hofstra University.

Effie Kammenou is a believer that it is never too late to chase your dreams, follow your heart or change your career. She is proof of that. At one time, long ago, she’d thought that, by her age, she would have had an Oscar in her hand after a successful career as an actor. Instead, she worked in the optical field for 40 years and is the proud mother of two accomplished young women.

Her debut novel, Evanthia’s Gift, is a women’s fiction multigenerational love story and family saga, influenced by her Greek heritage, and the many real life accounts that have been passed down. She continues to pick her father’s brain for stories of his family’s life in Lesvos, Greece, and their journey to America. Her interview with him was published in a nationally circulated magazine.

Evanthia’s Gift: Book One in The Gift Saga was a 2016 award finalist in the Readers Favorite Awards in the Women’s Fiction category.  Waiting for Aegina is Book Two in The Gift Saga and Chasing Petalouthes is Kammenou’s latest release, completing the series.

Effie Kammenou is a first generation Greek-American who lives on Long Island with her husband and two daughters. When she’s not writing, or posting recipes on her food blog, cheffieskitchen.wordpress.com, you can find her entertaining family and friends or traveling for ‘research.’

As an avid cook and baker, a skill she learned from watching her Athenian mother, she incorporated traditional Greek family recipes throughout the books.

She holds a Bachelor’s Degree in Theater Arts from Hofstra University.

Find Effie:

On Twitter: @EffieKammenou

Facebook: @EffieKammenou

Website:  www.cheffieskitchen.wordpress.com

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Monday Magic – Inspiring Blogs for You!

Good evening everyone!

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I have been a bit quiet this week – well on the blog, Scope & social media anyway, as the hot weather has caused one or two faints and falls.  The last one was worthy of an Oscar – flat on my back, double shoulder dislocations, shoulder & wrist and I think there might be a fracture in my hand, judging by the beautiful bruising and the pain. faint-movieI know people will say I should go to A&E and hubby has threatened that he will take me if it doesn’t calm down…..but we zebras have high pain thresholds and I’m not sure I can face hospital.  I did visit my GP last week, who told me off as I had self diagnosed the pain around my eye to be migraine related.  She did point out that as an ENT/head and neck nurse in a previous life, it should have crossed my mind that I have a sinus infection – so I came away with antibiotics and finally some iron, for an ever decreasing haemoglobin.  Six more pills a day to add my collection!

The lovely girl is having a great holiday and a week in we miss her more than she misses us – but don’t tell her, whilst the politics student returned from his music festival tired, smelly and very sun burnt!!  They did manage to purchase a tent on arrival in Barcelona last week, but I think it was too hot to sleep in it, he had his money stolen by the second day and then at the end of the festival they were  thrown off the campsite as their coach and flight weren’t until the next day.  So where do you sleep with your mates aged 19? You got it, the beach!!  Apparently an irate Spanish deckchair attendant is a wonderful alarm call at 7.30am……now he needs to get back on track, earn some money and find somewhere to stay in Nottingham when he takes his exams next month (missed due to illness!).  Sometimes they might be officially adults, but I suspect that really there is a little boy lurking inside the body of a lanky man!

So onto some blogs for you and I hope that you will enjoy the summery feel to several of them. Whilst the oppressive heat might have broken here in the UK and the gardens are loving some long overdue rain, I think we can still enjoy the strawberry tequila cocktail, the fashion tips and the suggestions for coping with the heat!

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Grab a drink, sit back and enjoy!

http://notebooksandglasses.com/2018/07/29/10-non-fiction-books-i-recommend/

https://www.autonomicrn.com/2018/07/28/the-face-behind-my-mask/

https://www.theatlantic.com/science/archive/2018/01/what-was-this-article-about-again/551603/

https://www.mojoblogs.co.uk/family/lilys-summer-lookbook/

https://janded.eu/unexpected-ways-sun-exposure/

https://homemadeandyummy.com/tequila-cocktail-strawberry-basil

https://www.5minutesformom.com/131213/learn-creative-mindfulness-a-book-that-takes-its-time/

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https://glimmerofhappiness.wordpress.com/2018/07/19/the-benefits-of-music-therapy/

https://www.mecfsselfhelpguru.com/2018/07/coping-with-a-long-hot-summer.html

Please comment, like and share these posts!

Have a great week,

Claire x

 

Monday Magic – Inspiring Blogs for You!

The heat continues, the local schools have broken up and the summer holidays have started in earnest.

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Two of the young adults have disappeared to Europe this week – no, not together, they  haven’t reached that stage of sibling love yet!!  The politics student is in Spain at a music festival (think I mentioned the lack of preplanning before) and the lovely girl left for the Greek island of Cephalonia on Saturday.  Between us we managed to get the new bikini, shoes and floaty trousers into a carry on along with various lotions and potions, not forgetting her sketchbook and pencils.  Unlike her brothers who tend to only contact mum and dad when they are suddenly in need, she does keep in touch – even if it is to make us jealous with stunning photos!

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Cephalonia beach visited by the lovely girl

Hubby has chosen the hottest day of the year to assemble a pair of his hand built back horn speakers outside (madness) and our old dog is completely flaked out, panting and awaiting his hair cut later this week.  Meanwhile yours truly has kept out of the sun with water and salt my best friends to keep POTS at bay…..but this has meant lots of reading, both books and blogs.  One of the posts below explains POTS and some great tips for the summer, I found a recipe for GF blueberry coffee cake, a series of Angel cards and a lovely start for the week with Alyssa’s Motivational Monday post.

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So sit back, put your feet up and enjoy some fab posts!

https://fightmsdaily.com/2018/07/23/motivational-monday-12/

https://www.thinkingoutloud-sassystyle.com/behind-closed-doors-life-with-a-neurological-condition/

https://brainlesionandme.com/i-still-want-adventure-in-the-great-wide-somewhere/

https://www.ajourneythroughthefog.co.uk/2018/07/11-strategies-to-combat-negative-thoughts-and-emotions/

http://www.youcanalwaysstartnow.com/category/angel-cards/

https://www.london-unattached.com/melba-toasts-homemade/

http://domesticdeadline.com/2018/07/09/blueberry-coffee-cake/

https://www.mainlyhomemade.com/healthy-living/natural-anxiety-relief-remedies/

https://www.hospitalprincess.com/2018/07/21/stop-pots-summer-tips-for-postural-orthostatic-tachycardia-syndrome/

https://robertmgoldstein.com/2018/03/09/dissociative-identity-disorder-when-shame-becomes-pride/

If you enjoy these posts please like, comment and share on your social media!

Have a great week,

Claire x

Endorse Me in the WEGO Health Awards!

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WEGO Health Awards – I have been nominated in two categories! #WEGOHealthAwards

2018-Awards-46This week I have been surprised and a little overwhelmed to find that I have been nominated in 2 categories for the WEGO Health Awards!

These awards are particularly special as nominees are described as a “Patient Leader” and “Advocate” – and I find myself mentioned alongside some Health blogging royalty.  A huge honour and very exciting.

“WEGO Health is a mission-driven company connecting healthcare with the experience, skills, and insights of patient leaders. They are the world’s largest network of patient leaders, working across virtually all health conditions and topics. Click here to learn more about their Patient Leader Network. The WEGO Health Awards were created to celebrate those who tirelessly support the mission of WEGO Health: to empower the patient voice. With 16 award categories, the WEGO Health Awards are the only awards across all conditions and platforms, that recognize the over 100 thousand inspiring Patient Leaders who raise awareness, share information, and support their communities – but often without recognition.”

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When I was first medically retired, I found the amazing world of bloggers and completely unexpected online support from those who had been through similar health experiences.  Strangers who understood – I was bowled over that so many were happy to share experiences & lend an ear, but also to how many are living everyday with a variety of health conditions.  This is what inspired me to start PainPals – if I can offer some support as well as take it, give friendship as well as make it and offer some words (I stop short of saying wisdom) and humour about living with a family and chronic illness – then I am happy!

From the blog has come working with the disability organisation Scope, and I have been so pleased to be able to be the online Chronic Pain Advisor – even though my own flares have kept me away at times.

So here I am, nearly 3 years on from my spinal cord stimulator implant and so nearly 3 years on from starting this blog.  I find writing therapeutic on so many levels and find myself nominated for “Best Kept Secret” and “Best in Show:Blog” – thank you so much!

If….you would be happy to have a look at my Nominee Profile and endorse me, that would be fantastic. Take a look at some of the other great nominees too!

Endorse me here: 

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Let’s Talk About Chronic Pain – The online #Scope community

For the next fortnight the focus for the Scope online community  forum is “Chronic Pain”.

To kick the discussion off, I am delighted to have my own poem “Today You Beat Me” featured and as the Chronic Pain Advisor hope to be “chatting” online with lots of you – visit the forum here Scope.

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Next week two of my favourite pain bloggers will be featured – Ali from Notebooks and Glasses and Barbara at  Back Pain Blog UK– so it would be great if you would drop by, give them some support  and check the community out!  Please pass the details on to anyone who might benefit!

What is Scope?

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Scope is a charity that exists to make this country (UK) a place where disabled people have the same opportunities as everyone else. Until then, we’ll be here.

Scope has recently reviewed research to produce a document called the Disability Perception Gap.  The resulting report examines the attitudes and prejudices that disabled people face and also the perception that the public has of disability.

The full report can be read here.

Visit the Scope website to learn more about the support, information and community that the charity can offer.

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Monday Magic – Inspiring Blogs for You!

Good evening!  It has been a busy day here, what with scheduling for Chronic Illness Bloggers, checking out a friend’s vicar mate to be our quiz master, trying to get on track with Chronic Pain queries on Scope…and passing out in the heat.  Hence I am only finishing this post tonight.

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One son has just returned from the Ukraine and a dose of radiation on a trip around Chernobyl (they found it fascinating and the photos show a strange dystopian type of vacant world), and now the other is about to jet off to a music festival in Barcelona.  Dad’s cab is getting very good a early morning airport runs!  We have 2 extra young men coming back to sleep on our sofas tonight before they are deposited at the airport for 7.30 flights tomorrow morning.  “Where are you staying when you get there?”  “We’re camping” “But you hate camping!  Do you have a tent?” “No, we’ve got a few hours when we get to Barcelona so we’ll get something then”!!  Nothing like being prepared.  The lovely girl is slightly better prepared for her trip to Greece next weekend as she orders shorts and bikini and has already checked in.  I mustn’t forget Mum & Dad either who have just returned from a cruise in France – Paris to Normandy, where they witnessed the jubilation at the World Cup semi final win, narrowly missing the actual final – or my sister in law and nephew, currently in Turkey.  Now I wonder where hubby might take me?

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Deserted city of Pripyat, within the Chernobyl exclusion zone

Those of you who read my post at the end of last week will know that a pain flare in the current UK heatwave has been causing me some grief and I haven’t managed as much reading as I would ordinarily.  But, I have managed to find some posts from some different bloggers and I hope you enjoy them as much as me.  Mascara warning for Hello My Name is Grief.

Sit down, grab a cuppa or a wine glass and get ready to read some great posts!

https://www.momspresso.com/parenting/the-glitterati-affair/article/learning-to-say-no

https://silencekilledthedinosaurs.com/2018/07/12/hello-my-name-is-grief/

https://diaryofapainfullyshyinterovert.wordpress.com/2018/07/11/im-totally-not-coping-right-now-but-im-extremely-frightened-of-any-mental-health-service/

http://bystarbysea.com/importance-of-rest-days/

https://teaandcakeforthesoul.wordpress.com/2018/06/15/menopausal-beach-body-blues/

https://kateonthinice.com/important-life-lessons-for-your-kids-before-they-head-off-to-university/

https://mummyhereandthere.co.uk/2018/07/10/10-best-life-tips/

https://girlinhealing.com/italian-grilled-zucchini-2/

https://veroniiiica.com/2018/07/16/fast-facts-about-plastic-straw-bans-for-people-with-disabilities/

https://www.britmums.com/2018/07/doubled-traffic-using-key-word-search/?ct=t(8_march_newsletter3_8_2016_COPY_01)

Like, comment and share these posts if you enjoy them.

Have a great week,

Claire x

Blog Tour and Book Review – “Blind Justice” by Alex Tresillian – Seeing is Deceiving #LoveBooksGroupTour

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THE NEW NIALL BURNET THRILLER!

Synopsis supplied by the publisher:

Superstar Paralympian Fiona Mackintosh Green retires from the track to set up Forward Roll, a charity helping disabled people achieve self-respect through sport. But is she all she seems? How is her charity spending its money?

Niall Burnet, visually impaired journalist, is sent in undercover to find out. What he discovers is a trail of illegal performance-enhancing drugs that leads from the charity to its major backer, global pharmaceutical giant Prince Rajkumar.

All too soon, Niall finds himself surrounded by key players who will stop at nothing to protect their interests. When a former athlete is found dead, he knows that one wrong move could be his last…

Book info:

Publication Day: 5th July 2018
Publisher: Urbane Publications
ISBN: 978-1911331117
Pages: 336
Category: Fiction, Genre: Conspiracy Thriller | Political Thriller | Action Thriller

Buying links:

Amazon UK: https://amzn.to/2vU1bdE
Amazon US: https://amzn.to/2HFMNep
Foyles: http://bit.ly/2HE6cfD
Waterstones: http://bit.ly/2HLBe1t

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Review:

This is the sequel to Eyes of the Blind, Alex Tresillian’s first novel about journalist Niall Burnet.  I have not read the first and feel that this can easily be read as a stand alone tale, but those of you who have read my reviews in the past will know that I personally prefer to have read books from number one. Personal preference!  In this case the storyline from the first book does continue into this novel, and whilst there is sufficient explanation to be able to easily follow, I would always recommend reading book one!  However the opening scenes set in Telford draw the reader into the plot, slowly allowing a catch up on the story of Niall and Miranda before the new investigation commences.

When this book popped onto my radar I was excited to read and review something that has different types of disability at the fore and keen to understand how the author would incorporate them into the storyline.  It would have been easy to have the disability element as a token nod, but I don’t believe that this is how the author constructs this story as the visual impairment of Niall and the new sight of girlfriend Miranda are central to the plot – as they would have been in the first book too.  However this is dealt with in a very matter of fact way, allowing us into Niall’s world as a blind man but more importantly into his world as a journalist – no saccharine coating in sight (no pun intended).

The introduction of Paralympian Fiona is handled differently as she is a celebrity as a result of her disability and her sporting success, but her disability is written about sympathetically without it enveloping her whole character.  As a relatively new wheelchair user, I was able to relate to certain elements very well.  These aren’t a major part of the storyline, neither should they be, but the descriptions of the lay out of her office furniture and the adapted shower room all rang bells with me – as did her need for help to get into her evening dress!  The public face and the private face are elements that anyone with a disability/chronic illness can relate to – no one wants the lack of dignity that can come with wheelchair use being played in public.  This is demonstrated so well as Fiona explains how she manages her bladder – as a young woman she wishes to have as much control over her body functions for as long as possible, and if this means “toiletting” every hour in order to avoid accidents, but also to avoid a catheter then so be it.  Again this is something that I relate to personally, as someone with a neurogenic bladder who tries to avoid self catheterisation!

I have to applaud the author for recognising that disabled people have sex lives!  This may seem a very odd thing to draw from the book, but there does tend to be a fear and embarrassment of recognising those of us with disabilities and chronic health as being sexual beings.  I’m not going to give any spoilers about specific relationships in the book, but will say that the growing attractions and feelings are described sensitively and with the focus on the emotions of any growing relationship, not on the abilities of either party.

The characters are all really different and make for an interesting cast as their back stories and current stories start to intertwine the more that Niall investigates.  Niall himself is loved by some of this cast and yet reviled by others, particularly some who have known him many years.  I actually admire Niall for sticking to his beliefs for right and wrong – most of the time! – and for striving for justice.  He certainly doesn’t take the easy route, extending himself beyond the original journalistic brief to expose the sports charity, when he realises that he could be onto a much greater story – the involvement of a major pharmaceutical giant in doping in athletes.  As an ambitious journalist, of course he is following the bigger scoop – but his human side is shown as he refuses to write an expose on the small sports charity that he believes can still do much good.  Niall is a flawed character in so many ways, but this makes him human.  He has mixed emotions about Miranda gaining her sight – envy, guilt, fear, delight – all swirling around inside him like a pressure cooker, yet he is unable to acknowledge most of them far less verbalise them.

Miranda, in contrast,  at times is a rather pathetic figure in the way that she comes across.  I think my feelings toward her were something of disbelief and anger that she is so apathetic about the miracle of gaining her sight, but it is only as the story progresses that I realised how hard it must be to suddenly be living in the sighted world after 30 years of being “cocooned” by both her lack of sight and her family’s protectiveness.  The descriptions of managing public transport in London for the time alone are beautifully written – navigating the underground for the first time is a challenge for anyone, but for a young woman who has never been able to see before this represents a whole visual stimulus overload!  Miranda is the character who grows the most throughout the book.  She is neglected by Niall on the move to London and this pushes her to examine what she wants from her life.  She feels unskilled and at sea in the sighted world, yet she knows she wants a purpose.  Her crippling anxiety both holds her back and drives her forward.  by the time I reached the end of the book, my opinion of her had changed completely.

The backing cast include Fiona’s chauvinistic sports coach husband – described perfectly to elicit strong feelings of dislike in the reader; Zoltan, Miranda’s knight in shining armour; the men, including Miranda’s father, who form an “old boys’ network” at the centre of the other charity in the story and believe that they are untouchable; the strong Dame Hillary, brought in to overhaul the British association for the Blind yet finding herself drawn in to conspiracies and secrets; and finally the cast of workmates at the Sports Charity, all with their unique insights into the organisation.

The theme of drugs in sports is very topical and the investigation at the heart of the novel is fast, gritty, at times uncovers a seedy, dark underbelly that is unpalatable yet fascinating.  The different attitudes to what constitutes “cheating” are interesting and the author indirectly asks the question “what is a level playing field?”.  Morals, greed and money, dreams and aspiration, drive and ambition – all are central to the plot.

There are loose ends at the end, and whilst this is not a criticism as real life does not come gift boxed, I do want to know what happens to certain characters……and I hope that these incomplete tales mean that Mr Tresillian is planning for a return of Niall in a third book.  I guess that this tells you how much I enjoyed it!! 4 stars

Thankyou to Kelly at Love Books Group for including me on this tour and to Urbane Publications for sending me a copy of the book.  Please note that all thoughts and opinions are my own.

 

About the Author

Alex grew up in rural England with a dream to write for a living which never quite came true. He has enjoyed incarnations as a theatre publicity officer, restaurant manager, teacher, teacher trainer, and curriculum developer. Along the way Alex wrote five plays that were performed by students including one, Never Mind the Rain Forests, that was enthusiastically reviewed (3 stars) at the Edinburgh Fringe. Another, Gavin’s Kingdom, received a professional workshop production at the Birmingham Rep. Plays Into Shakespeare, a book for English and Drama teachers that introduced students to the characters in Shakespeare’s plays through short modern-English ‘additional’ scenes, was published by First and Best in Education in 2007.Alex Tresillian Author Image

Alex moved to Abu Dhabi in 2008 with a Lebanese international education company that had a contract to train English teachers and develop curriculum materials. Latterly moved to their Academic Development office in Beirut and wrote two series of books for students from ages eight to sixteen – one on grammar and one on the art of writing. He is now living with his wife of many years in Worcestershire, his children pursuing careers in education, fashion, charity fundraising and web development in places as disparate as Beijing, London and Chesterfield. Alex also enjoys writing stories for his young grandchildren.

Social Media Links for Alex

Website: https://urbanepublications.com/authors/alex-tresillian/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/Alex_Tresillian

 

Be the Best Version of Yourself

I’m in the midst of a flare.

More specifically the pain from nerve root damage in my back is uncontrolled.  Driving me insane! Those of you who have been Pals for some time will know that this pain is usually tamed by my spinal cord stimulator – an implant that scrambles the pain signals to my brain – but this week there is a battle going on between my body, the stimulator and my head…..physical, psychological and emotional.  The heat and humidity is ensuring that the other pains in my joints and soft tissues are also flaring and my autonomic nervous system has frankly gone haywire.

The changes in air pressure and temperature have always affected the metal skeleton that bolts the bottom of my bony spine together.  This spinal fusion currently hurts – it hurts at the immediate vertebra level above the fusion (my EDS means the spine overextends even more due to the bones below being fixed); it hurts in the bones that have been cemented and screwed together with titanium nuts and bolts; it hurts in the surrounding muscles and soft tissues trying to hold the whole lot together.  In fact as it starts to feel more stormy, I am certain that the titanium is about to break loose and rip through my skin, which feels like it is stretched tighter than a drum.

 

 

 

 

I feel that I should at least be able to use this time and be useful. Write, read, catch up – but the symptoms have a way of robbing that time and creating a thick pea souper of brain fog and fatigue.  Concentration is poor and I seem to spend periods of time lying on the floor, unable to do anything – this post is taking hours to write.

I am irritable, stroppy, snapping at the family.  My patience level is zero.

I feel that I let myself and others down as I crawl between the sofa and the floor and bed.  I know that staying still is the worst thing to do, but is is tricky to keep up that physical exercise that we are told we must do when in the thick of a flare.  There is so much advice out there for coping with flares and chronic pain, the majority well intended, but there is no one size fits all or one quick fix.  We are all different.

I have made this flare worse!  Wise? Probably not.  Worth it? Definitely!  Tuesday evening we attended Prize giving at the lovely girl’s school  – she protested that I didn’t need to go,  but I was determined I would see her mount the stage!  It was hot, there were performances, there were presentations to the year groups, there were presentations and words about every girl leaving the sixth form, there was the guest speaker’s speech.  Then there was yours truly sat in my wheelchair – slap bang in the middle of the front row!  A perk of needing more space to accommodate your wheels, but a definite disadvantage for quietly creeping out.  When the dodgy shoulder slipped out of socket and the neck and whole arm started to shake with spasm, I couldn’t even have a sneaky puff on my Medipen CBD vape – best birthday present ever!! (more of that in another post). Might have raised a few eyebrows!

It was tough sitting still for so long and I had the feeling that my head was too big and heavy for my neck to support – lollipop head, but the guest speaker, an old girl of the school, left a lasting impression.  Currently a senior figure in one of the “Big Four” accounting organisations, she spoke to the students about achieving their potential in whatever they chose to do – she said that whilst she knew she would never be saving lives, making significant discoveries or winning a peace prize, she had tried to be the best version of herself.

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“Be the best version of yourself” – isn’t this something worth striving for no matter our individual circumstances? I have been thinking this week that even with a chronic illness there still a best version of you and of me.  It may not be the same version from 20 years ago, and it sure as hell isn’t the best version that I had envisaged, but isn’t that true for everyone?  Circumstances change and so do we.  The 18 year olds who released balloons from the drinks reception after the ceremony have their lives ahead of them – exciting futures that will mould them and change them.

I won’t lie – the best version of me has not been a pretty sight nor one I particularly like this week! But it is something that I will strive for, and if my semi-adult kids can learn from this and try to be the best version of themselves, then I can be happy.

I’m in the midst of a flare – but it will end!

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What do I want to become?

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Part 1: As I see the sun settle & darkness conquer the sky, the question begins to grow. It wasn’t the first time that someone insisted me to think on it. I still don’t have an answer. I have a list, list of things I would like to do, list of everything that I want. Maybe it’s supposed to be like that. Maybe we are supposed to live our lives doing things & wanting things, one at a time. Maybe we don’t have to become anything, we just need to fill in the empty spaces with all the experiences & stories.
Maybe we have to become something, but if that’s true, then what are we now?

Part 2: I say ‘I will do something!’ and put an end to it, or I say about what I am studying and hence it’s clear to the person who asked the question but…

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Monday Magic – Inspiring Blogs for You! Henley, World Cup & Dysautonomia!

Phew…it is hot here!!  I know that I shouldn’t complain about the heat – but for me it really does make certain health issues a lot more exciting!!  All you POTSies out there will know what I mean!  This weekend has been all sport….Wimbledon tennis, Grand Prix, Henley regatta and not forgetting the World Cup football!

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Monday Magic Inspiring Blogs for You! Henley

I actually managed a trip to Henley in my role as chair of my old school’s Friends committee – we represent old boys and girls and parents.  We jointly host an annual lunchtime drinks gathering for past and present rowers from the school, but this year there was a clash with a little England football match taking place in Russia.  Henley Regatta is one of the last bastions of the old world – that is the world with a definite dress code and very limited technology.  So no smart phones, social media, electronic score boards or…..TV screens.  This year the committee actually made the announcement that gentlemen were allowed to remove jackets in the Stewards’ Enclosure due to the heat!

 

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The traditional scoreboards still in use at Henley (courtesy of Henley Royal Regatta website)

 

The day was sweltering, yet we still received many visitors to our pitch in the Henley Cricket Club – it was lovely meeting so many young people who love their sport and working within a team to represent their schools/clubs/countries.  Whilst rowing is a sport that probably is still not readily available to all, don’t be fooled by these photos of an elite occasion – the early morning starts on a freezing winter day, sitting in a boat somewhere on a river…..and the training is hard.

 

My partner in crime on Saturday, my old teacher Nick, was secretly pleased that I couldn’t cope with the heat for too long….because it meant that we skipped a trip to the Stewards’ enclosure and snuck away early.  Guess what we were home in time for?!

Hubby and the politics student were running the penalty shoot out at the primary school fete on Saturday – I have never seen hubby contact someone as quick as he did after England beat Colombia (Yes, on penalties!) to “advise” the fete organisers that they should change the opening times.  So we arrived home to a husband sitting in front of the big projector screen, unable to move after a couple of hours in goal, and 20 minutes in to the football.  I sat down and have struggled to remain upright ever since.  Something very strange with dysautonomia is that your body is unable to regulate temperature changes, so yours truly is dripping one minute and then covered in goose bumps & shivery the next!

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The excitement in England at the moment is reaching fever pitch – again we are witnessing young men who are passionate, talented and want to play as part of a team.  They seem to respect each other and respect their manager.  I bet Gareth Southgate didn’t reckon that this World Cup would send him into the stratosphere of fashion icon though – those waistcoats have apparently driven up sales across the nation!

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Waistcoat fever is Coming Home! Photo by Royal Anwar on Pexels.com

It has taken me all day to write this so apologies for mistakes today!  I have a mixture of chronic illness posts, a great post from a student nurse (I guess I would say that) and a new blogging tag from Em at The Pickled Blogs project which you should all take a look at!  Sit back with a cuppa – or in line with Henley and Wimbledon a glass of Pimms – and enjoy!

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Who is that woman with the stick on the end of the shot?? With current and past rowers from the school sporting their boat club blazers – I did manage to jump out of the wheelchair for a few minutes!

 

https://thecounterfactualbrain.wordpress.com/2018/07/01/responding-to-the-migraine-pose/

https://youngsickinvisible.wixsite.com/blog/single-post/2018/07/09/Common-Misconceptions-About-Mental-Health

https://thefrozenmind.com/coping-chronic-illness/

https://chronicallyglutenfree.com/2017/09/organic-does-not-equal-gluten-free/

https://emlinthorpe.com/2018/07/06/pickledblogs-pickledblogproject/

https://heartofastudentnurse.wordpress.com/2018/07/06/day-6-nhs-30-day-nursebloggers-challenge-what-i-fear-in-the-future-of-nursing/

https://chissecretdiary.wordpress.com/2018/07/08/slighty-disapointed/

https://www.ajourneythroughthefog.co.uk/2018/07/a-girl-behind-dark-glasses-book-a-review-from-a-fellow-me-sufferer/

https://autonomicrn.com/2018/07/05/love-and-loss/

https://talkaboutpopmusic.com/2018/06/24/new-playlist-summer-hits-of-the-80s/

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Have a great week – and if you are following enjoy the football on Wed!

Claire x